If you can turn discomfort into a punchline, you’re rewarded. I’ve watched men hurt themselves in socially acceptable ways and get applauded for it. Continue reading

We live in a world that is constantly on fire, yet we are expected to discuss it as if it were a dinner-party topic. Continue reading

The first time I said “mansplaining,” it did exactly what it was supposed to do. He was explaining something I already knew. Not loudly. Not cruelly. Just with a confidence so assured it assumed I needed even the simplest things spelled out for me. Continue reading

There is a particular tone some men use when they say the word feminist. A slight upward lift at the end, like they’re waiting for applause. Like they’ve done something admirable. Continue reading